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Taking care of yourself is a necessity not a luxury. If you’re a parent it’s natural to put your children first but it’s too easy to forget to take care of ourselves. When we remember to look after ourself we are often in a better mindset to take care of others. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
📢 INCOMING 📢 It's Week 4️⃣ of our #MentalWellnessChallenge 🎉 Welcome to anyone who has just joined, glad to have you on board 💞 Make sure to watch our highlights to catch up on any challenges you missed 👆 Did you know that acts of giving and kindness can stimulate the reward areas in the brain, creating positive feelings? 😍 So this week is all about Giving To Others. If you're taking part, make sure to let us know how you get on by tagging @bbcbodypositive and using the #MentalWellnessChallenge ❤️
Strongly recommend this book to anyone who experiences anxiety. It has so much information to help understand and deal with anxiety plus heaps of space to add notes. Thank you #corinnesweet#itsoktonotbeok
I am struggling. I have been completely undone. Barely surviving. Keeping together by threads - or so it has felt.
Then, my community, has shown me little glimpses of light. They have taken the raw edges of my heart and held them gently. Loved me in their own ways.
This has reminded me of the strength I have. That it does get better. That I need to find the glimpses of light when it is the most dark.
And with this, I can do the same for others. Shine a little light in the darkness. Be the light in some one elses dark times. The light will find you when you need it again.
#itgetsbetter #bealight #shinealight
#fallingapart #beingraw#honesty#itsoktonotbeok#vunerability#youarevalid #realtalk
#whatisyourstory #authentic#connection#youarenotalone#braveandscared#liveauthentically#courage#bekindalways #writeyourownstory
Sometimes it’s not all about winning! It’s about being the best version of yourself. Tough times, tears, mental state changes and emotional changes run high at some stage of everyone’s life. It’s how you respond, react and move on that shapes you into your true self.
People aren’t always what they seem, but you have to live with yourself, so be honest, caring and kind to you. Cause at the end of the day, you need to be your number 1 fan!
Throwback to Tanya’s epic punch!!! 🥊
Why should I have to be kind when they treat me like crap? Why should I be kind when this person has come in and totally flipped my household upside down, and feels good about it? I don’t want to be kind. I want to be that mean person that forces them out of my house. They don’t do anything to help out around here anyways😒 but no.. I have to sit back take it with a grain of salt, and act like everything is perfect.. even though deep down I’m screaming.. doing everything within my power to not lose it and have a meltdown in front of my children.. I just want my home back.. #bekind#fakeittillumakeit#smileprettygirl#itsoktonotbeok
𝐈𝐓𝐒 𝐎𝐊 𝐓𝐎 𝐁𝐄 𝐋𝐎𝐒𝐓 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐅𝐎𝐔𝐍𝐃
What people see outside to the inside are two different characters to your being
People see a funny pretty selfie from me often
I'm followed by thousands on social media but my circle of support is small. SURPRISED ?
Question ? HOW MANY ASK ▪️️How are you today?
▪️️𝓦𝓱𝓮𝓷 𝓼𝓱𝓪𝓵𝓵 𝔀𝓮 𝓶𝓮𝓮𝓽 𝓾𝓹?
▪️️Hows your week?
▪️ＣＡＮ Ｉ ＬＩＳＴＥＮ,
▪️ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴀʀᴇ ʏᴏᴜ ᴜᴘᴛᴏ ᴛᴏᴅᴀʏ?
▪️ＨＥＬＰ ＩＮ ＳＯＭＥ ＷＡＹ？
See externally people dont see the pain, trauma, experiences that may have been endured.
People dont see whether you are struggling, isolated, suffering, doubting, self sabotaging and very much so they could be bearing all tortured thoughts in silence.
People see "external appearence" these days, and although social media can connect you to more people world wide it can also disconnect you where people forget to connect in real life face to face.
With a picture of perfect comes presumption, Procrastination and a Social Media Showreel of perfect families, lifestyles and a wall to some of things they feel are missing for many !
Mental health although nowadays more campaign and people become more aware, it still has a stigma and an air of ignorance around it!
No one likes to be nor chooses to be the negative Nelly!
For some they cast mental health as attention seeking, being needy, not worthy, not coping, weak, some selfish.
People choose very often to look the other away, yet can fill a crematorium when it's too late (I know I've experienced it)
So today I'm telling you drop the mask
It's time to - 💎LOVE YOURSELF 💎RESPECT YOURSELF 💎ADMIRE YOURSELF 💎FORGIVE YOURSELF 💎ACCEPT YOURSELF 💎NUTURE YOURSELF
TODAYS THE DAY - 💎YOU ARE ENOUGH💎
Nós somos humanas ❤. Sabemos que é meio óbvio, mas às vezes o óbvio precisa ser dito. Descansar, relaxar, procurar o melhor para o nosso corpo e mente são nossos direitos. 🥰
The face of a mother, sister, daughter, aunt, wife and friend.
Somedays I'm extremely hard on myself, my routein of parenthood goes out the window when I'm rushed to get the kids up in the morning and we are running late to school, my many messages of trying to catchup with friends go unanswered because I either forgot to reply or it's just slipped my mind, my hope's of being the best aunty I can be at times are non existent because as a sister I dont have great relationship with my siblings but the ones I gained through marriage help fill the void, the thought that I'm not the perfect daughter is slowly becoming a distant memory as I rebuild that connection, being a wife is hard work it takes so much effort to let things slide when I'm having a bad day and Ben is home late.
The idea of trying to be everything at once can have the power to really bring me down and weigh heavily on my shoulders. Recently I was diagnosed with combined ADHD and a Anxiety disorder I'm going through the process now to make sure I also dont have PTSD it's been hard to ask for help and acknowledge that these things make me who I am but I'm actually glad this is who I am, I'm unique and different. I choose to get diagnosed because I wanted to be the best version of myself I can be I owe that to my children and its helped me to understand why things happen and how to love myself. I still have a massive road ahead of me but right now at this point in time I'm greatful for all that I have and all that i am.
I feel like my life is only just starting.
Behind closed doors you dont know what someone is going through you dont know If they are smiling through the day just get through.
Being an open book helps me and I hope it helps others.
I've told a few close friends who havnt judged me and just said "that's cool" "no big deal" .
Remember it's ok to not be ok just remember it's ok to ask for help something I'm slowly accepting ❤
#adultadhd #adhd #ig_motherhood #mum#mumlife#blogger#momentsintime#beok#itsoktonotbeok#thoughts#igdaily#judgmentfreezone#momsunited#wife#sister#daughter#friend#appreciationpost#love#selflove
How much do we filter our lives?
As I sit here in the #nzautumn I think about my life and my journey.
I have anxiety and depression.
I carry that everyday.
Some days are easier than others.
I take my medication and have done for 10+ years now.
I've had many different types and doses.
I remember fighting with my Mum when she told me she thought something was wrong. I wasn't myself and hadn't been for a long time. I was in denile. I wasn't depressed. I was just tired. SO TIRED.
I was also an alcoholic at age 24.
I cant remember my life from age 18-25 pretty much.
Most of its a blackhole.
I've had 2 full-blown breakdowns.
I started my medication.
If I had another breakdown they would admit me. I didn't want that. That scared me more than the medication.
So I took the pills.
I thought I could get away with still drinking on the pills.
I was wrong.
It was WAY WAY WORSE.
The reason I stopped drinking was because I became pregnant with MOO.
If she hadn't have come along I don't know if I would've ever gotten out of the darkness.
She saved my life. 100%.
I write this today because last week all I did was fight with MOO.
This week I want to reflect on the journey the 2 of us have been through.
She is my life. My saviour. My purpose.
Mental Health is SO IMPORTANT.
It's not a weakness to stand up and say "I'M NOT OK" it's OK.
Tell someone. If they don't hear you keep telling people until someone does.
Heading out to a MDW bbq this weekend? Keep in mind that you are more than. More than the calories you consume, more than the minutes you exercise. Your worth is not dependent or related to the food you eat or the number on the scale.
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This one goes out to two of my favourite people in this world, whose friendship is absolutely priceless. Thanks for the awesome visual diary! ❤️ #goodadvice#mindfulart#inspired#friends#adventures#friendship#mindfulnessquote#youareincontrol #truth#beatdepression#beatanxiety#mentalhealthadvocate#selfcare#itsoktonotbeok#motivate#encourage#inspire #mindfulness#motivated#happy #encouragement#motivationalquotes #lifeisshort#livefully#grateful #mentalhealthawareness#gratitude #humble#inkdrawing#truth#mentalhealthrecovery
As mental health awareness comes to an end I just wanted to remind people it’s always ok to ask for help. It’s ok to not be ok. If you feel scared or worried what people think of you differently I promise you they won’t. The people that love you want the best for you and will help you no matter what the case. Go talk to someone it might be something as easy as adjusting your medications or meditating. Don’t be afraid to go to therapy or tell people you feel different. I feel like when we scroll through social media we only see the good things and not peoples struggles. I personally have been dealing with bad anxiety & panic attacks and just thought I was being dramatic. I sought help and continue to get the help I need to be the best me. Since I’ve reached out things have gotten so much better. Family friends and co workers have all been there for me to do whatever they needed to help me. I still have bad days and I still will but I’m already feeling so much better. Life’s to short to live a life worried what other people will think. A co worker told me You gotta take care of yourself before you can help others. I can’t thank everyone who’s been there for and continues to be there for me. Don’t be embarrassed or feel bad that you need a little help. If anyone is going through anything and doesn’t have anyone to talk to I’m always here no matter what. See your best friends get married, watch your family graduate, go on trips without feeling panicky, enjoy date nights out with the best, supportive bf ever. These are just some things I’ve enjoyed without panicking since I got help. Now go out and live your best life. #mentalhealthawarnessmonth#itsoktonotbeok
We’ve got this💪🏼 We’re in this together! Please feel free to message me... for a chat, advice, support, anything!💗💗
I am not a professional, just trying to be a friend🤝
Please feel free to message me for anything or any questions❓
Together, not alone💫
Picture credit::: @laurajaneillustrations
After last night's panic attack I'm still feeling so drained and tired, I didn't know how to cope with these intense feelings at the time, if my partner wasn't there too help me focus on the here and now then I don't know where I'd be today.
If anyone has any tips that they can share with me that would be great, anxiety is high at the moment
Second post up on my website, link in the bio on my page. I talk about my time in Cork - the best city in Ireland (#HontheRebels)and living a life that doesn’t feel like your own anymore.
As I mentioned in my first post, I spent the majority of my semester abroad in Cork feeling incapacitated by anxiety and an inexplicable uneasiness. In the months and even years that followed, it was difficult for me to reflect upon my time in Cork without sadness. It seemed unimaginable for me to untangle those difficult memories from the location where they had taken place, to forget the feeling of loss that came from reminders of that time in my life.
Why mention it, then? Why allude to it at all? Why not brush it under the rug and focus on the positive, life-affirming moments that I was able to carve out of a difficult period? Quite simply, because it is a part of what I know, a vital aspect of my story to tell. And that it was while I was living in Cork, and in the painful months that followed, that I came to understand what it means to no longer feel like the person you had meant to be.
My heart is absolutely breaking as I am writing this. I posted last week that Cleopatra was sick. We initially thought she had a foreign object stuck in her bowels and we were pretty sure we successfully got it to move through her system. She started acting like herself again. She was eating, talking and very active and happy and we were so relieved, but within days she got extremely sick again. After more tests, we now know that she has a very aggressive case of lymphoma, and it’s advanced too much for surgery. At this point, all @gussosa06 and I can do is make her comfortable over these next couple of weeks. I’ve been crying non stop for days and we are devastated to say the least. Cleopatra — you have brought so much joy, love and laughter into our lives and we love you so much. What makes this even harder is that it was so sudden and unexpected. She literally went from being a happy and healthy cat to sick and dying over night, and we are physically and mentally drained from all of this. That being said, I’m taking a couple days off, maybe even the next week from social media to pull myself together. Please keep Gustavo, Cleo and I in your thoughts and prayers and thanks so much for all your love and support. ❤️❤️❤️
I had a whole flurry of folk unfollow me here on insta after talking about the two children I know who tragically lost their lives to depression. One of whom, my son's friend who lost her life just two weeks ago. I had a quick peek in my "unfollowers" app and most of them were "inspirational" "good vibes" types.
I mean what I'm about to say quite seriously, if you are only able to live in the light and fluffiness of "positive thoughts" if you veer away from anything gritty or hard, if you turn away from anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or from people at the darkest times you are not inspirational you are quite simply shallow and I would wager remarkably boring. Personally I have no desire to curate a perfect facade I'd rather be able to talk about things and people that matter openly. Maybe stop basing your life on "likes" or seeming perfect and make genuine connections, if that's not possible then take your "positivity" and shove it puddle face.
How’s your day been?
The day started with a lie in until 10! Unheard of in this house. We took a long drive through the country and walked.
My mornings seem to start all fluttery and on edge and it helps to just get out. Fresh air, the forest and loads of fields of cows!
What do you put in place for yourself when you you’re not feeling great? 🖤 x
Its been a mix of a day here in Sunny (or not so Sunny) Brighton... but the dog is always the perfect excuse to go out whatever.⠀
Just everywhere I looked there were Nettles and Cleavers... or Sticky Willie as its more, sympathetically known in Gaelic parts, due to its unflinching tendency to stick to EVERYTHING! And the thing about Cleavers is that although it can be dried and used... its just so much more effective taken fresh in a tea, steeped over night in water or added to a delicious spring salad. And also, although it is traditionally a Spring remedy, Im also of a mind that if its still prolific and growin (not flowering) then the climate is just right for it and should still be appropriate even as we head to mid-summer.⠀
In this picture I just added it to water and waited.⠀
Cleavers is an ancient and legendary herb (or weed) and is, at the same time, known not only to be a very effective lymph tonic, but also very safe. Its cooling, eliminating properties make it a wonderful addition to any cleansing protocol and nearly always included in most inflammatory skin conditions such as eczema and psoriasis.⠀
Actions: Diuretic, alterative, anti-inflammatory, tonic, astringent & anti-neoplastic (fights cancer!)⠀
So if your like me, and like to forage for medicinal herbs as well and foods this will make a great addition to your Spring fare. Enjoy some Sticky Willie - I know I do! Lolz!⠀
#stopcensoringmotherhood #recipes#pregnancynutrition#healthyfoodforpregnancy ⠀
#PostnatalDoula #HypnoBirthing#BirthDoula#Doulasupport #BirthWorks⠀
#Breastfeedingsupport #Breastfeedinginformation#Breastfeeding#EvidenceBasedInformation#Supportingnewfamilies #BrightonBirth⠀
"They didn't say to me explicitly, you've gotta look like this... Of course there's an expectation." Team GB sprinter @jimmyells, Scottish footballer David Cox, Love Island star @joshdenzel and freestyle footballer Olumide Durojaiye discuss their issues with masculinity, depression, body image and expectations. Head over to @bbcsport for more.
One of the inspirations for @walkthetalkus . Miss the talks, the laughs, and most of all....I just miss the my giant! Don’t forget to tell your family and friends you love them.
#walkthetalkamerica would like to take a moment to remember one of the inspirations for this organization to become the catalyst for change. ❤️
i’ve spent almost my entire life hating my body. I remember a time when I didn’t fixate on if my pants were a little too tight around the waist. if my bra was making my back look pudgy. if my shoulders looked too wide in this shirt. I remember a time when i was ignorant to all of that. why did it change?
when i started 8th grade, I started comparing myself to every girl around me. I noticed that I didn’t have a thigh gap. my legs looked really fat when i crossed them. I don’t look good in bikinis. I have a double chin if I lower my head too much. I picked out every part of my body that I hated: my thighs, my belly, my arms. I hated everything. I starved myself so that I could look like “my pretty friends.” I looked in the mirror and said, “I hate you. you are worthless” to my reflection. I harmed my body because there was nothing good about it. this way of life has controlled me for so long—it still controls me.
i’ve always wanted my body to be something that it’s not. just yesterday I said that there’s not a single thing that I like about myself. but as i type this, I realize that’s not true. yes, I have fat. but I also have muscle & curves. my body has carried the weight of not only itself, but also the weight of others. it’s been abused; it’s been hated. it hasn’t been loved in a long time, and it deserves that. my body is incredible. it is strong, it is capable, it is HEALTHY, and it is mine.
'Mental health problems can affect anyone, at any time. We believe that mental health is everyone’s business' c/o @mentalhealthfoundation. It's Mental Health Awareness Week over here in the UK, so we wanted to take a moment to check in with you all. It's up to us to support each other, helping to drive conversations on mental health forwards to get us closer to creating last change. Share this post, talk about how mental health has affected you or your loved ones, read up about how you can help support. Please, please reach out if you are struggling. Ask those around you how they are doing today. Again, with feeling, how are you ~really~ doing?
This past weekend I decided to take a break. I had a dream on Saturday that really shook me and I’m pretty sure it was the Universe’s way of putting me back in my place.
That morning, I had thought to give a bit of loose change I had to a homeless man so he could get something from the McDonalds behind him. Nothing much but I thought it’d be a good way to give back for what good I’ve had come into my life recently. Moments later another man knocked on my windshield and immediately my gut went sour. I don’t know why, but I’m learning to trust when it says something so I listened and left.
Maybe it’s a lesson I have yet to learn about trust. I’m extreme. I either trust wholeheartedly or not at all. It’s been something I’ve always had to work on and am reminded of it quite frequently.
Saturday was also the day when I got to go out with Mr. and his new coworker who just came over from Tokyo. I was nervous and excited to practice my Japanese but became overwhelmed a lot sooner than I expected. I hadn’t expected his new coworker to look similar to my ex and that shocked me a bit. But he was nice and polite and I shouldn’t have reacted as I did internally.
This weekend I needed the rest and I think it’s a good reminder of the ebb and flow of energy in your life. You aren’t always going to have energy like the Energizer bunny. But at the same time, life is never going to be a smooth ride. There will be times to relax and refresh, just as there will be times of excitement and energy and motivation.
I hope everyone had a refreshing weekend and a great start to the week!